Hi Fred,
Congratulations on getting your headset apart!
I have use an order of operations that helps me disassemble bikes. I don't know if you did it in this order or not.
When I am beginning to dis-assemble a bike, I start with the headset. While the whole bike is still together, it is easier to get the headset loose. With the bike on the ground, the front wheel between my knees, one hand on the handlebar and one hand on the headset wrench, I loosen the headset. If the bike has already had the front wheel and gooseneck removed it is much harder to get the leverage and control to loosen the headset. If the headset does not loosen, I don't continue dis-assembly. I apply penetrating oil, and walk away and wait. Once the headset is loose, I then remove the pedals and then loosen the gooseneck from the fork while the handlebar is still in place. Once loose, I tighten the gooseneck, remove the handlebar, and then remove the gooseneck.
If you did not do it in this order, try it next time. It helps a lot.
Chris