I have owned a handful of pickup trucks over the years, and every single one that came with a topper, I took it off. Couldn't stand the look. When I bought this truck, it didn't come with anything on the bed so I bought a tonneau cover and quickly realized it wasn't that convenient for hauling bikes, so for the first time in my life I actually shopped around and bought a topper for this truck. They have come a long way from the ones I've had in the past, as most were aluminum and generic to fit different makes.
But if I was going to buy one, it had to be level with the roof lol. First time I hauled a bike with it on, realized it wasn't super convenient either, but I liked the look. The extra weight on the bed helps a little in the snow too, since its a 2wd truck.
I have been starting to consider getting one of those "old man truck caps" as I call them. I think it would be easier than using the Swagman. I too am married (16 years) so I don't need to impress anyone either, it's just always been about personal preference. I am finding that I may just have to give up personal preference for necessity.